PODCAST 8

AWARDS

We visit with Jillian Hosey, a therapist in Toronto. We explore presence in therapy, ruptures and repair, and the importance of our own work in caring for our clients. This part two of two.

We visit with Jillian Hosey, a therapist in Toronto. We explore presence in therapy, ruptures and repair, and the importance of our own work in caring for our clients. This is a two-part conversation.

We discuss therapy trauma with a friend who is also a clinician with lived experience. We explore the impact of previous therapy trauma on new therapeutic relationships, and how therapy trauma makes it so difficult to re-engage with a new therapist. We discuss how relational wounds can still hurt, even when the person wasn’t doing it maliciously like our abusers did. We discuss how the most technically skilled therapists are not always the best therapists. Trigger warning for therapy trauma discussion, with passing reference to examples, but no disclosures made in depth or detail.

We discuss therapy trauma with a friend who is also a clinician with lived experience. We swap stories of our own experiences from family of origin and therapy. We explore the attunement experienced in a group like ourselves, with others who are both present and responsive. We discuss the challenges of friendship, and impact of trauma re-enactment in relationships. Trigger warning for therapy trauma discussion, with passing reference to examples, but no disclosures made in depth or detail.

We read and respond to listener emails.

We share what we read in the book “In Session” by Deborah Lott, as recommended to us by a podcast listener. The author explores the relationship between women and their therapists, so please be aware of that as a general content trigger warning. In this episode, we discuss what she wrote about the history of boundaries and why they really do matter.

We share what we read in the book “In Session” by Deborah Lott, as recommended to us by a podcast listener. The author explores the relationship between women and their therapists, so please be aware of that as a general content trigger warning. In this episode, we discuss what she wrote about the history of boundaries and why they really do matter.

We share what we read in the book “In Session” by Deborah Lott, as recommended to us by a podcast listener. The author explores the relationship between women and their therapists, so please be aware of that as a general content trigger warning. In this episode, we discuss how she came to know this relationship is called “transference” and what that means and why it’s so powerful - including how and why it hurts so much when something goes wrong.

Our guest is Martha Straus, PhD, who works with adolescents struggling with trauma. She explains how she talks with families about historical trauma. She discusses helping parents co-regulation as part of empathic attunement. She shares about the increasing complexity of adolescent brains developing into adult brains, and how all of us have parts navigating identity through that process. She broadens the concept of body memories to include preverbal experiences later expressed as symptoms like under or over activation symptoms. She explains how all developmental trauma is relational trauma because it takes place in a caretaking relationship. She reframes self-harm as a protective strategy that “almost works”. She shares what it’s been like doing teletherapy with adolescents during the pandemic. She gives examples of repair after rupture.

I need share how what I learn about therapy of business not buddies. The outside kids playing at the splash pad. Fireworks is not snipers don’t be scared. I say three examples abuse but we don’t talk about that.

We share about The Community, and discuss with some early members what the platform is like and how it works. We announce new features on the website, as well as monthly meetups, upcoming webinars, and classes. Trigger warning for brief appearance by the outside kids at the end of the episode.

Dr. Lou Himes, a psychologist in New York, shares with us about their presentation at the recent ISSTD annual conference regarding trauma-informed treatment of transgender clients. They explain the difference between gender and sex. Together we explore gender identity, including discussions regarding expression, roles, and presentation. They also explain the difference between physical attraction and emotional attraction. We discuss why this matters, how misgendering and microaggressions are additional traumas, and how this impacts clients who already struggle with trauma and dissociation. Trigger warning for gender identity issues, reference to religious abuse, reference to oppressive parenting, and reference to therapeutic ruptures.

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We share an update of our progress in therapy. We discuss our experiences of talking about transference explicitly and directly in session. We explore implications for other relationships. We process how safe relationships, healthy transference, and boundaries make it safe for us to decide to engage in therapy again - and that we can do so without dismissing any of what’s been hard and while still honoring all of who we are.

Kelly McDaniel is back to tell us about her new book all about “Mother Hunger” after introducing the concept on our podcast in her first interview with us. We discuss “Third Degree Hunger”, and apply it to what we learned last year. We share examples of historical parenting trauma due to behaviorist training, and how we have worked to repair that in our family. She explains the neural pathways of bonding and survival, and how this leads to the betrayal blindness in relational trauma. She explains the difference between authentic hope and pathological hope. Trigger warning for topical content regarding mothers and relational trauma.

Emma shares about therapy, and what we are learning about the Inner Critic. She tells how we learned to challenge those thoughts and feelings. She shares painful insights from this experience, and what it means for us moving forward - toward healing.

We visit the cemetery where our mother is buried, and reflect on what we have learned about intergenerational trauma. We explore our own trauma response patters. Trigger warning for references to cemetery, death, abuse, trauma, and rape (none of these are discussed in depth or in detail, only mentioned in passing reference).

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Our guest today is Lisa Danylchuk.

We reflect on a chapter from the book “Complex PTSD” by Courtois and Ford, and discuss therapeutic relationships.

We reflect on a chapter from the book “Complex PTSD” by Courtois and Ford, and discuss therapeutic relationships.

We read and respond to listener emails.

Our son requests a podcast chat about autism and trauma. We look at what he’s learning from top-down and bottom-up. He shares what he has been learning in social skills development. He discusses how he compartmentalizes things, and how learning to do so intentionally has helped him. We discuss the impact of the pandemic on school experiences, and explore supportive problem-solving.

We read and respond to listener emails.

Our guest today is Maureen McEvoy, who volunteered to talk with us about re-enactment. She provides three examples, including one that references sexual consent in marriage. She clarifies that intrusions (like flashbacks) are when memory time invades now time, but re-enactment is when the same dynamic is actually happening again in now time (with different people or circumstances). Trigger warning to passing reference to “home movies” which she uses in references to old messages and memories from the past (not child exploitation materials).

We share more therapy updates, including that we got assigned to write a fairytale.

We share an update about re-engaging in therapy, ever so slowly and carefully. We shared how our new therapist used art and books to help us safely start talking in therapy again. We talk about losing our previous therapist to Memory Time. We talk about the book Complex PTSD and the book Stranger in the Mirror.

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We start to answer emails, but someone writes in about Littles. We share our experience of this, and talk about what we did to find a good therapist for us. We share examples of Littles engaging safely, as well as times we feel protective of them.

We welcome Michael Salter, criminologist and researcher, to the podcast. He shares about his work in domestic violence, child exploitation materials, and online trafficking. He talks about the critical need to listen to the stories and voices of survivors for mental health care to improve. He encourages focus on vicarious resiliency, rather than only vicarious trauma. Trigger warning for example of trafficking (without abuse details given) and types of abuse mentioned.

We share some updates and start to answer emails, but someone writes in about having to find a new therapist. We share our experience of this, and talk about what we did to find a good therapist for us. We share examples of helpful and not helpful responses from prospective clinicians.

We welcome Beauty After Bruises, who share their own stories of how the organization came to be and what they are doing to help the survivor and dissociative community.

We give a recap of the 2021 (Virtual) ISSTD Annual Conference (part 2 of 2).

We give a recap of the 2021 (Virtual) ISSTD Annual Conference (part 1 of 1).

Our guest, Dr. Nicole Black, shares the "Dissociative Experiences Cards" she has created for use with clients.

We presented at the ISSTD Annual Conference in 2021. This is part of that practice for preparing that presentation. We discuss dyadic, community, intergenerational, disability, and historical traumas, as well as addressing trauma as experienced in war zones, refugee camps, and the pandemic. We review the history of trauma diagnoses to explore the impact of these in the clinical setting and how that intersects with modern Plurality.